I don't run into much of what you're describing, I'm glad to say, but it is indeed unnecessarily hurtful and disrespectful.
I'm afraid I've found a similar thing when signing up for big bangs as a writer. As you know, I like to mix things up a bit and give Gaius and Richard a love life and a sex life (at least within my fic, though hey). I am perfectly OK with the artists and betas and so on who are signing up to indicate 'No Gaius' or 'No Richard'. I respect their preferences, and even understand them to a degree.* There is a reason why they are asked to state their preferences, both for and against, and it's a good reason.
However, I find it rather hurtful when the person involved feels obliged to add '{shudders}' or 'Urgh!' and so on. That's really not necessary. It's bashing, too, whether of character or ship.
Mind you, I've never complained to the mods about it, so maybe that should have been my first choice rather than commenting here... I guess I am so used to the notion that these are rather minority tastes and probably will remain so, that I pretty much expect the dissing. And that now strikes me as rather sad!
* Though I think it's a bit sad that so many people in our society are so anti senior-sex and senior-love, and I wonder at what age they will be putting themselves on the shelf... People, you'll be missing out badly.
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I'm afraid I've found a similar thing when signing up for big bangs as a writer. As you know, I like to mix things up a bit and give Gaius and Richard a love life and a sex life (at least within my fic, though hey). I am perfectly OK with the artists and betas and so on who are signing up to indicate 'No Gaius' or 'No Richard'. I respect their preferences, and even understand them to a degree.* There is a reason why they are asked to state their preferences, both for and against, and it's a good reason.
However, I find it rather hurtful when the person involved feels obliged to add '{shudders}' or 'Urgh!' and so on. That's really not necessary. It's bashing, too, whether of character or ship.
Mind you, I've never complained to the mods about it, so maybe that should have been my first choice rather than commenting here... I guess I am so used to the notion that these are rather minority tastes and probably will remain so, that I pretty much expect the dissing. And that now strikes me as rather sad!
* Though I think it's a bit sad that so many people in our society are so anti senior-sex and senior-love, and I wonder at what age they will be putting themselves on the shelf... People, you'll be missing out badly.