*sigh*

[nightfox]

*sigh* I hate when I get "removed" from someone's friends list for no reason I'm aware of. I mean, if it's someone I don't really talk to or our fandoms are no longer in sync, well, that I could at least understand. But when that's not the case...

Ah well. No one can be universally well liked, right?

Comments

[kitty_fic]

I completely understand where you are coming from. I always tell myself not to take it personally but it's really hard when you can't even guess why someone has dropped you. :( *hugs*

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

It is hard. I guess I've just been too out of it lately with my PL and all.

*hugs* Thanks bb <3

[kitty_fic]

Oh i also meant to tell you I was defriended by someone around the same time, so now I'm wondering if it was the same person! ;D

[bunnysworld.livejournal.com]

Who understands people?
I once had a person here on LJ (who I've known in RL, too) who ranted about nobody answering to her entries and therefore kicking everybody off her Flist. I mean...huh? Everyone uses their LJ for their own reasons, but to get replies?

It's always difficult to understand why a person drops you, no matter if it's online or in RL. But sometimes it's just them, not you.

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

I guess so. It's just hard not to take it personally, especially when nothing is said, you know?

Ah well, its not like I don't have plenty of awesome friends already!

[zairaalbereo.livejournal.com]

I know how you feel. My flist is kind of short (and full of awesome people ;)) so I haven't really been through that (yet), but it happened to me with RL friends just recently (or well, maybe not friends really then, right?), and yeah... it just hurts. Even if you tell yourself, they're obviously not worth it if they shun you like that, you can't help asking yourself if it's something *you* did or said...

I think you're awesome, bb! *hugs and clings*

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

*glomps you*

I shall not mope, I have lots of awesome friends like YOU <3

[wanderlust48.livejournal.com]

:(

Ah, people and friendships- waxing and waning with life.
Yes, that would be upsetting, but I tell myself if I don't ask why I have the fortune when new friends are added, then I shouldn't question when old ones drift. Can you tell maudlin me has given this some thought??

Anyway *hugs*.

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Thanks hun. You're so right about that. I have been friended out of the blue before so I guess being de-friended shouldn't be that big a deal. People come, people go and really awesome people stay <3

[rocknvaughn.livejournal.com]

Damn it, did I delete you again? Wait...am replying here so...

Nope, must not be me. *nodnodnods*

Don't mind my silliness, but it makes me wonder who'd drop you, since you are awesome!

You have been a bit...*quiet* on your lj in the past few months; perhaps it was believed you were no longer active?

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

LOL, I haven't been that quiet! If anything maybe I got defriended for too much pimping!


Also, if YOU defriended me I'd find you and kick your arse! You aren't getting rid of ME with a simple mouse-click!

[issy5209.livejournal.com]

Who can tell with some people? *some people are strange*

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

People are indeed strange but that's usually what I like about them ;)

[scribblemoose]

Someone defriended me this week but had posted just before saying she was leaving Merlin fandom, maybe it's the same person? The post saying she was doing a cut was friends only, so if you weren't around when she posted it.... ah, online culture. Still unfathomable at times!

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

That wouldn't bother me too much but no, this person is still quite active in the Merlin fandom and hasn't made any announcements (I have email alerts for most of my friends so I wouldn't have missed it)


*shrugs* I'll probably never know the reason behind it but it's a small mystery in the grand scheme of things. I was just feeling a bit hurt and bewildered when I made this post. I'll get over it soon enough. I still have a fantastic bunch of friends here!

[tambear13.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I've only ever unfriended two people. One because we just did not get along, I mean seriously. It was like chalk and cheese, and they were one of my first friends when I joined LJ. But, they never commented on anything I wrote, or even replied to comments I left on their stuff... So I thought - whats the point?

And the other person was just being really condescending in any replies to comments or comments on my posts so...

I've never looked to see how many have unfriended me -- I'd say it's a lot! But if I'm not missing them then...

That sucks to have happened to you =(

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Well, I got along fine with this person and I don't think I was ever condescending, I sure hope not!

I didn't actually go looking for someone defriending me, I got an email alert telling me I'd been defriended. I should probably turn off that alert. It'll probs save me some heartache in the future!

[archaeologist-d.livejournal.com]

I never look to see who defriends me. I figure that if I don't fit in with their LJ anymore, it's better to just let them go.

I did defriend someone by accident once and it took a while before the person pmed me to ask.

I don't think you should take it personally, though. I'm sorry that you feel bad about it. :(

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Apparently I've got the email alert turned on for de-friendings like I have for friendings. I think I shall probably go ahead and turn that off and save myself some future angst.

I'm getting over it. With so many other wonderful friends, it's hard to be too mopey about it!

[jelazakazone.livejournal.com]

:( Getting cut is always a shock. Like archaeologist_d I did have someone cut me once by mistake (I knew it was a mistake because we were besties:)), so I emailed her right away.

*shrug* I have been known to cut people because I added them hastily and they turned out to be people I could barely tolerate and then one day they did something that pushed me over the edge, but they were also people I barely interacted with. If you really feel it could be a mistake, pm them.

Also, you are awesome and you can't please 'em all. So true. Just keep being your awesome self. <3 <3

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Thank you <3

I believe I friended this person through a Merlin friending meme and though we aren't besties or anything, I've been reasonably active in commenting on her entries. Yes, a little less active lately but not totally silent!

Ah well, it's a small matter in the grand scheme!\

*hugs*

[jelazakazone.livejournal.com]

Meh. Could be she just left the fandom. Definitely a good perspective -- small matter in the grand scheme! <3 <3

[captainraychill.livejournal.com]

Well, I love you even though our fandoms aren't really in sync. Not going anywhere. :)

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Yay! I love you too <3 Yeah, I always mean to be more active in HP (I freaking adore it) but then Merlin sucks me in and takes all my time! Still love my multi-fandom friends though :D

[millionstar.livejournal.com]

Darling, the internet is an interesting place at times. I got removed from someone's LJ yesterday because they're angry that I got a rare song at my Muse gig this week that they've never got the chance to hear.

Yeah, really. Lol.

It's a bit hard not to let it bother you, though, I've been there before. But you are so kind and supportive and lovely that I cannot fathom why anyone would remove you at all.

The whole not knowing WHY is frustrating. xx

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Wow, now that is a silly-stupid thing to de-friend someone over! Probs better off without someone like that on your flist!

*hugs*

The WHY of it is what bugs me. I mean I know I haven't been around as much lately and no, I haven't been commenting on EVERY post like I usually try to but I haven't disappeared completely.

Ah well, I still have you and all my other wonderful friends. I can't be too sad over this when I think of that!

[sp-owl.livejournal.com]

It's happened to me before, and it's hurtful. I have had someone do it with explanation--the kinds you stated above, which was okay. But several times I've had someone do it out of the blue, which leaves me wondering, wtf?

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Yeah, this post was my wtf? reaction. I don't get it but meh, I'll get over it. I have more than enough friends who still want me around!

[kathyh]

I always wonder about it when it happens to me so you certainly aren't alone. I think sometimes people just decide to trim their lists without explanation.

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I am going to assume that's the case...though being on the "trim" list sort of sucks. It's ok though, I don't really want to stick around where I'm not wanted. I've got plenty of people who do want me around :D

[enkanowen.livejournal.com]

that happened to me a couple of weeks ago when a 'friend' decided she no longer wants me in her life. In the end, you're better off without them even if it temporarily sucks. <3

[k-nightfox.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I mean it's disappointing but I'm getting over it. I've got plenty of people who want me around and that sure takes the sting out of all this <3

[karuvapatta.livejournal.com]

Don't worry, we love you here in the Merlin fandom!

[alba17.livejournal.com]

Yep, happened to me recently, although it was someone I'd thought was gone from LJ, but I guess they were just lurking. It does make you wonder what you did wrong, but I try not to dwell on it. People act weird on the internet. More than likely it isn't you, just a divergence of interests.